Rising Strong

Rising Strong

The physics of vulnerability is simple: If we are brave enough often enough, we will fall. The author of the #1 New York Times bestsellers Daring Greatly and The Gifts of Imperfection tells us what it takes to get back up, and how owning our stories of disappointment, failure, and heartbreak gives us the power to write a daring new ending. Struggle, Brené Brown writes, can...

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Title:Rising Strong
Author:Brené Brown
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ISBN:0812995821
Edition Language:English
Format Type:Hardcover
Number of Pages:336 pages

Rising Strong Reviews

  • Julie Davis
    May 23, 2015

    I scored this off of NetGalley. I was unsure how I'd feel about reading a Brene Brown book since I have only watched her TED Talks and listened to

    which is a series of workshop courses she gave.

    I shouldn't have wondered. Brown's voice grabbed me from the moment I read the introduction. In fact, early in the book Brown's realization that "you can't skip Act 2" (a reference that will be clear if you read the book) was revelatory for my husband and me in a work situation

    I scored this off of NetGalley. I was unsure how I'd feel about reading a Brene Brown book since I have only watched her TED Talks and listened to

    which is a series of workshop courses she gave.

    I shouldn't have wondered. Brown's voice grabbed me from the moment I read the introduction. In fact, early in the book Brown's realization that "you can't skip Act 2" (a reference that will be clear if you read the book) was revelatory for my husband and me in a work situation that we're slogging through at the moment. It didn't change our point on the map, so to speak, so much as to point out where we were and that we weren't really lost in the Slough of Despond ... just working our way through it to Act 3.

    I like the way Brown has our innate connection to storytelling as a parallel thread. On one hand, it defines ways we can recognize and recover from dangerous trajectories. On the other, just reading what she's found about us as storytelling beings hits a note that interested and connected with me.

    The reason I only gave this three stars is that the last third of the book somehow felt very different, much more self-help oriented than what preceded it. Suddenly there were a lot of acronyms, bullet pointed lists to consider and work through, open ended questions to ask yourself, and a couple of case studies that seemed very unnecessary. My eyes glaze over at that sort of thing which is why I've enjoyed Brown's talks so much — because they are necessarily free from such items. I haven't actually read one of her other books so she may have followed this pattern before. It may work for everyone else in which case the problem is mine alone.

    At any rate, I still recommend the book. It allowed me to make a lot of connections in my own life between my behavior, internal logic, and how to avoid or recover personally from falling hard when taking a risk.

  • Taffy
    Jun 08, 2015

    When I read a self-help book, I realize not all of it will apply to me or I will take what I need at that moment. This book is no different BUT I took a lot of notes. It was intriguing and interesting. The book is full of stories to help the reader see the point Brene is trying to make.

    I used some of her ideas the next day and honestly felt better about my day and communication with the people around me. I grew up in a home that did not deal with emotions nor did we talk about hard things at al

    When I read a self-help book, I realize not all of it will apply to me or I will take what I need at that moment. This book is no different BUT I took a lot of notes. It was intriguing and interesting. The book is full of stories to help the reader see the point Brene is trying to make.

    I used some of her ideas the next day and honestly felt better about my day and communication with the people around me. I grew up in a home that did not deal with emotions nor did we talk about hard things at all. Now I'm married, I need to be able to understand my emotions that I tend to keep buried and "safe" and I need to communicate better with my husband and children. I would recommend this book just for the help of thinking in a different way.

    4 1/2 STARS

    Thanks netgalley for the read!!

  • Jennifer
    Jun 09, 2015

    “Rising Strong” is the third in a series of recent books Brene Brown has written about the importance of vulnerability and authenticity in one’s life. Here she once again synthesizes her years of research, innate understanding of human behavior, and personal stories into a highly readable, relatable, and actionable self-improvement book.

    In her earlier works, Brown references the times in our lives when we will all feel like failures, either personally or professionally. In “Rising Strong” she d

    “Rising Strong” is the third in a series of recent books Brene Brown has written about the importance of vulnerability and authenticity in one’s life. Here she once again synthesizes her years of research, innate understanding of human behavior, and personal stories into a highly readable, relatable, and actionable self-improvement book.

    In her earlier works, Brown references the times in our lives when we will all feel like failures, either personally or professionally. In “Rising Strong” she digs deep into that space between failure and recovery – the “Act 2” as she calls it – because she sees it being glossed over in our culture:

    “On a cultural level, I think the absence of honest conversation about the hard work that takes us from lying face down in the arena to rising strong has led to two dangerous outcomes: the propensity to gold plate grit and a badassery deficit…We much prefer stories about falling and rising to be inspirational and sanitized…We like recovery stories to move quickly through the dark so we can get to the sweeping redemptive ending.”

    With examples from her research and her own life, Brown outlines several case studies of people who spent a lot of time in “Act 2”, and the strategies they used to do the hard work required to really get back up and go on. She breaks these into three sections: Reckoning (recognizing something is wrong and getting curious about one’s own feelings); Rumble (reality-checking our first response to a problem and digging deeper); and Revolution (fundamentally transforming your story).

    As I reviewed my notes from the book I realized that I had probably highlighted more sections in this book alone than I had in many other books combined. The material is completely engaging and her style is honest and authentic. 4 stars.

    Thank you to NetGalley and Random House for a galley of this book in exchange for an honest review.

  • Rebecca Foster
    Aug 05, 2015

    Brown, a qualitative researcher in the field of social work, encourages readers to embrace vulnerability and transform failure and shame through a simple process of re-evaluating the stories we tell ourselves. The gimmicky terminology and frequent self-referencing grated on me a bit, but I appreciated how the book made me reconsider events from my own life. It’s the ideas that carry

    , so as long as you come to it expecting a useful tool rather than a literary experience you shouldn’

    Brown, a qualitative researcher in the field of social work, encourages readers to embrace vulnerability and transform failure and shame through a simple process of re-evaluating the stories we tell ourselves. The gimmicky terminology and frequent self-referencing grated on me a bit, but I appreciated how the book made me reconsider events from my own life. It’s the ideas that carry

    , so as long as you come to it expecting a useful tool rather than a literary experience you shouldn’t be disappointed. Genuinely helpful self-help.

    See my full review at

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  • Ryan Dejonghe
    Aug 24, 2015

    Some books you hug. Other books hug you. Rising Strong is a book that hugs you. “Rising strong after a fall is how we cultivate wholeheartedness in our lives; it’s the process that teaches us the most about who we are.” If you haven’t gotten used to the language of Brené Brown, now’s a great time to start.

    I gave Brown’s last book three stars. But dang, if that book doesn’t haunt me still. Her words—her stories—have a way of burrowing into your soul. When you are at that precipice of argument, Br

    Some books you hug. Other books hug you. Rising Strong is a book that hugs you. “Rising strong after a fall is how we cultivate wholeheartedness in our lives; it’s the process that teaches us the most about who we are.” If you haven’t gotten used to the language of Brené Brown, now’s a great time to start.

    I gave Brown’s last book three stars. But dang, if that book doesn’t haunt me still. Her words—her stories—have a way of burrowing into your soul. When you are at that precipice of argument, Brené sits angelically on your shoulder saying, “Conspiracy thinking is all about fear-based self-protection and our intolerance for uncertainty.” You ask at the time of reading, “Brené, what on earth are you even talking about?” Then comes the moments where it all makes sense.

    My inner nerd got excited about Rising Strong’s introduction—research!! Footnotes!! Notta. Not one (at least in the digital advanced readers copy). “I fell in love with qualitative research—ground theory research, to be specific.” What you’ll see is Brown relating her findings in personal tones. It’s like you are sitting on the couch with her with tea and biscotti in hand. Two BFFs. “I’m using research and storytelling to unpack what I’ve learned.”

    Then she brings in Oprah. And Pixar. And even one of my favorite authors Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. She intertwines her stories, thick with examples and hints at research, and builds her point. Brené moves to continue her big three: vulnerability, courage, and authenticity.

    As she says, her other books were about “being you” (The Gifts) and “being all in” (Daring Greatly), but here she says it’s about: “Fall. Get up. Try again.”

    We’re encouraged to engage with our feelings and get curious. “Give yourself permission to feel emotion, get curious about it, pay attention to it, and practice.” Some of the bigger takeaways from Rising Strong are finding “the story I’m making up” through writing out your SFD (‘stinky’ first draft—you can replace the S-word) and strengthening the belief that people around us are doing the best they can.

    Brené doesn’t think positively. She alters your way of thinking to become positive. There’s a difference. Key word: authentic. She talks about the ego: “The ego doesn’t own stories or want to write new endings; it denies emotion and hates curiosity.” She talks about shame, in “never good enough” or “who do you think you are?” to becoming “no matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough.”

    You owe it to yourself to let Brené Brown sit upon your shoulder.

    Here’s the her TED talk on The Power of Vulnerability:

  • Stefani
    Sep 05, 2015

    I'm perplexed. I enjoyed Daring Greatly and was excited to read Rising Strong. But, I wonder about "Pamela", frosting fingers woman, and the breastfeeding mom.

    I think acting with integrity, for me, would have been greater had the author sent "Pamela" and her boss the email. Instead of, in essence, sending the email to millions of people by publishing it in this book. I also question why she needed to make a point of stating how many syllables were in her real name and at which event they met. I

    I'm perplexed. I enjoyed Daring Greatly and was excited to read Rising Strong. But, I wonder about "Pamela", frosting fingers woman, and the breastfeeding mom.

    I think acting with integrity, for me, would have been greater had the author sent "Pamela" and her boss the email. Instead of, in essence, sending the email to millions of people by publishing it in this book. I also question why she needed to make a point of stating how many syllables were in her real name and at which event they met. It sounded a lot like revenge to me, disguised as a learning moment.

    This was after frosting fingers was outed as a terrible person. We're supposed to have learned to look at people as doing the best they can. But we never get "Pamela's" side of the story. Nor do we know if she asked permission to share the story after revealing enough details about "Pamela" for people, like her boss and coworkers, to know who she is.

    And then the breastfeeding mom who was shamed for shaming non breastfeeding moms. Was she doing her best? Is there more to her strong opinions that we need to know about before Brené gets the last word?

    So, I'm left with three stories of women who will undoubtedly know who they are and know tons of people are reading their stories. And I do not believe that anonymity will protect them from their own feelings. How are they? How are they working through their shame that they feel now? What do they have to say about doing the best they could with the tools they had and the places they were in at the moment they crossed paths with the author?

    This is what stuck with me most after reading the book.

  • Elyse
    Dec 07, 2015

    I thought I would have a lot to say after listening to this audiobook.

    However,

    **Rebecca Foster** already wrote A PERFECT REVIEW. Everything she wrote fits my experience!

    I enjoyed LISTENING to this book while walking. My guess is I would not have enjoyed 'reading' it half as much. (I might have been too judgmental)

    Personal things I'm looking at from this book:

    TIMES I HIDE OUT and SHUT down: in front of my mother-in-law and my brother-in-law!

    Isn't that enough to look at?

    I think so. End of revi

    I thought I would have a lot to say after listening to this audiobook.

    However,

    **Rebecca Foster** already wrote A PERFECT REVIEW. Everything she wrote fits my experience!

    I enjoyed LISTENING to this book while walking. My guess is I would not have enjoyed 'reading' it half as much. (I might have been too judgmental)

    Personal things I'm looking at from this book:

    TIMES I HIDE OUT and SHUT down: in front of my mother-in-law and my brother-in-law!

    Isn't that enough to look at?

    I think so. End of review!

    ***REBECCA FOSTER'S REVIEW*** ....(which expresses 100% how I feel)

    "Brown, a qualitative researcher in the field of social work, encourages readers to embrace vulnerability and transform failure and shame through a simple process of re-evaluating the stories we tell ourselves. The gimmicky terminology and frequent self-referencing grated on me a bit, but I appreciated how the book made me re-consider

    events from my own life. Its the ideas that carry "Rising Strong", so

    as long as you come to it expecting a useful tool rather than a literary

    experience you shouldn't be disappointed.

    Genuinely helpful self-help."

    THANK YOU, *Rebecca*!

    *****Valuable tools for being an emotionally more present human being -for our toolbox!

  • Jenny (Reading Envy)
    Jan 06, 2016

    I come at this book from a few perspectives. First, I saw a librarian make a presentation on vulnerability in the classroom, and he quoted Brene's earlier book,

    , as the basis for his experiments with students. I think both he and the author herself would have recommended I read that book instead of this book. Why? Well, even the author makes frequent references to it. It made me wonder if this boo

    I come at this book from a few perspectives. First, I saw a librarian make a presentation on vulnerability in the classroom, and he quoted Brene's earlier book,

    , as the basis for his experiments with students. I think both he and the author herself would have recommended I read that book instead of this book. Why? Well, even the author makes frequent references to it. It made me wonder if this book really had enough content to warrant an entire book. It is highly repetitive yet lingo-saturated, making it unpleasant to listen to in large doses. In fact, I put it on hold for a while and decided to go back to it.

    Don't you want to rumble with your MFD's and rise up? Yeah, I just don't like to have to speak in code. It makes it feel like you spend half the time learning her lingo and not focusing as much on the ideas themselves.

    The other perspective I come from in reading this is in my work, where I lead a team, one I feel protective of; I want them to be creative and work together and not to feel discouraged when we fail or are told we can't do an idea that we planned for. I needed something uplifting after a stressful December. To that end I appreciated the sections on story-filters and creativity. There are a few pieces I will bring up because they were useful.

    From a personal perspective, I always need to hear that pushing through the difficult middle of any situation has rewards.

    After reading quite a bit about how Brown's therapist helped her make some of these realizations, I think I'd like to read her therapist's book.

    And one final thank you for getting

    song back in my head for endless days.

  • Rincey
    Jul 18, 2016

    I'm sure this book would've been impactful no matter when I read/listened to it, but MAN does it feel incredibly appropriate right now.

  • Julie
    Aug 07, 2016

    There are books that meet you at just the right time, when you most need and are open to their messages. I can well imagine encountering the warm Texan embrace of Brené Brown's brand of social psychology at other times of my life and being turned off by its fierceness, volume and confidence. I may have looked askance at the cult of Brené Brown, with legions of devotees who discovered her through her TED talk gone viral, read her previous works, taken her Oprah-endorsed self-actualization worksho

    There are books that meet you at just the right time, when you most need and are open to their messages. I can well imagine encountering the warm Texan embrace of Brené Brown's brand of social psychology at other times of my life and being turned off by its fierceness, volume and confidence. I may have looked askance at the cult of Brené Brown, with legions of devotees who discovered her through her TED talk gone viral, read her previous works, taken her Oprah-endorsed self-actualization workshops, or listened to her CD series on vulnerability and shame.

    is in fact my first encounter with Brené Brown's work. It was pressed into the hand of the person who gave it to me as a gift last Christmas, the bookstore clerk assuring him it was a life-changing read, and now I will be the one to press it into everyone else's hands.

    So yes, let's just get it out there: the subtitled theme of

    , this triumvirate of

    is schticky and looks like pop-psychology gone wild. It will likely turn off others who rely exclusively on data and peer-reviewed research to support social science theory and prescriptive methodology.

    What I came to love about Brown's narrative is the marriage of research and inspiration, her ability to take grounded theory and apply it to art-the art of emotion, the art of knowledge, the art of faith.

    What is this book about exactly? It's about surviving hurt, acknowledging shame, embracing vulnerability, learning how to tell our stories, and getting back up to do it all over again, with courage and determination.

    The emphasis on personal narrative touched me deeply. As a writer, I believe we are wired for story and my greatest healing has come by turning to the page, not only in telling my own stories, as I do when spilling my guts in my journal, or constructing a personal essay that is meant to reveal more universal truths, but in creating fictional worlds with characters who are born of my heart, my emotions, and in a tangential way, my experiences. So Brown's insistence that we use the physical act of

    our narratives as a way to achieve truth and emotional release resonates deeply. Only in writing our stories can we examine what's real and what isn't, when we've conflated nostalgia with memory, when our memories have failed us and we fill in the gaps with drama or denial, where there is room for change or a different way of looking at the past that has shaped us.

    There are too many components of this book that touched me, made me nod or tear up with recognition, made me turn to my partner and read aloud. Just too many. Here are a few: The destructive nature of comparative suffering. The phenomenon of "chandeliering", when we've packed down hurt so tightly that a seemingly innocuous comment can send us straight up to the chandelier with an emotional reaction well out of proportion to the situation. The need to sustain our creative souls. The idea that everyone is simply doing the best they can and recalibrating your responses accordingly. Creating boundaries to access compassion. Courage is contagious. Hope as a learning process, not a fly-by emotion. Embracing regret as a path toward empathy and how trauma leads to shame, and unacknowledged shame prevents us from being vulnerable.

    Although I found many of the anecdotes that led to the development of theories and the concrete plans for personal engagement a bit trite, the approach to change Brown offers—like both hands extended to lift the reader up—is ripe and right, with practical, actionable guidance.

    I'm on board. All in. Let's do this.