Dating Never Works... until It Does: 100 Lessons from 1,000 Dates

Dating Never Works... until It Does: 100 Lessons from 1,000 Dates

Tired of mixed messages, confusing signals, and of playing the dating game? Dating expert Zack Oates has experienced it all in this comical guide that will keep you happy and laughing. Perfect for audiences in dating situations of all kinds, these encouraging steps will help you find your celestial mate....

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Title:Dating Never Works... until It Does: 100 Lessons from 1,000 Dates
Author:Zack Oates
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ISBN:1462119271
Format Type:Paperback
Number of Pages:176 pages

Dating Never Works... until It Does: 100 Lessons from 1,000 Dates Reviews

  • Tim
    Dec 01, 2016

    I laughed. I cried...but really this is a great book with a lot of good life lessons that aren't just for the dating crowd. Great job Zack!

  • Amanda
    Dec 17, 2016

    So my friend from college wrote this, and I am usually the first one to roll my eyes at a self-help dating book but seriously read this people, whether you are single, engaged, married, or want to strengthen any sort of relationship, my friend has some great insight that makes you both laugh and ponder!

  • Joshua Guest
    Dec 19, 2016

    Zack Oates. To what do I compare him? When I picked up the book I thought I would be reading the memoirs of a Thomas Edison-type speaking in the vein of, "I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that don't work." But that comparison was completely negated by the concluding chapter which I won't spoil for you (though you will see it coming before you get there). He makes a Michael Jordan comparison, "I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed." The prope

    Zack Oates. To what do I compare him? When I picked up the book I thought I would be reading the memoirs of a Thomas Edison-type speaking in the vein of, "I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that don't work." But that comparison was completely negated by the concluding chapter which I won't spoil for you (though you will see it coming before you get there). He makes a Michael Jordan comparison, "I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed." The proper comparator is more likely Teddy Roosevelt, "No, I'm not a good shot. But I shoot often."

    Oates prides himself as an entrepreneur, and you see his entrepreneurial mindset at work here (on one date he deliberately acts like a jerk as a kind of social experiment to see if girls really go for mean guys).

    If you're a follower of his dating blog, you'll spot some reruns here. And you will realize that he wrote this book on dating when he was still a very single man trying to figure dating out for himself. The book is written as general dating manual, though it is more useful and enjoyable as entertainment than as a serious self-help book (and Zack prudently addresses this in the final chapter, reminding us of who we're really reading here). He gives a few too many Stuart Smalley-esque affirmations for my taste, but we can forgive Zack for this since he does so without the least bit of irony. He is sincere in his conviction that his single readers are worthy of love and he is not afraid to tell them so.

    I believe Zack when he says he is gone on 1000+ dates. He has had a lot of failures (I've been witness to a number of his dates and relationships). He draws on the failures of women he has dated without coming off as bitter or superior (Taylor Swift could learn a thing or two from this man. How ironic that he quotes her at least once). But most of the insight from his misadventures in dating comes from his own hapless attempts (he declares his love for a girl and promises to swear off Cheetos puffs only to find out she is already engaged).

    The bright moments are when he connects the deep wisdom of the ages and applies it to some pretty ridiculous dating situations he gets himself into. At the end of one first date he lays it on pretty heavily at the doorstep, saying, "I can tell that I am going to have to fight for you." In reflecting on his misguided instincts he hilariously quotes Proverbs saying "A fool uttereth all his mind. But a wise man keepeth it in until afterwards."

    It's a fun-to-read, Mormon-friendly answer to

    If you're going to gift it to a single friend or relative, consider using it as a companion piece to something like, Michael Batshaw's

    5/5 Would date again.

  • Becca
    Jan 05, 2017

    I am not in the dating world any more which I am very thankful for. I decided to join this tour because I do have a daughter that is in the dating world. I thought it would be fun to read the "mans" point of view on dating. This book was a lot of fun. It was like Oates was sitting in the room with you having a discussion on how he got to where he is today. It's entertaining, and a great "guide" to dating.

    This book has so many great ideas for dating. There are so many things in this book I tell m

    I am not in the dating world any more which I am very thankful for. I decided to join this tour because I do have a daughter that is in the dating world. I thought it would be fun to read the "mans" point of view on dating. This book was a lot of fun. It was like Oates was sitting in the room with you having a discussion on how he got to where he is today. It's entertaining, and a great "guide" to dating.

    This book has so many great ideas for dating. There are so many things in this book I tell my kids all the time, and it was fun to see another perspective. He is so funny in this book. One of his headings says "Dating is like passing gas - if you try too hard, it hurts". I laughed so hard.

    There is a lot of great advice in this book. Some of them are.....

    "Don't worry why they waited an extra five minutes to text you back, but just be grateful you are texting. Enjoy the process and try not to get caught up in the details" (why do girls always make everything so important while dating, and forget to enjoy the ride).

    "...if you never leave the safety of the friend zone, you'll never have anything but friends." (too many kids now a days just want to "hang out" instead of breaching the "friend zone").

    There is a quote in the book from Tony Robbins that Oates heard in a conference. He was talking about a change of perspective...."...Nothing in the world changed in the last five minutes besides your perspective. The positive attitude to succeed is completely up to you"

    I really enjoy the date ideas at the end. I am an old married woman but never too old to date my husband. Plus, that is part of the "working" on my relationship.

    This really is a great book. Even if you are not in the dating world anymore, there are some great ideas on ways to work on your relationship. Marriage is work. Sometimes it's hard and sometimes it's not, but it's work. I am sure it took all of us going through many "duds" to get to our "Prince Charming's". Take some advice from Oates, and read this book. You will enjoy it so much.

    Source: I was given this book as part of a blog tour. I was not compensated in any way for this review. These are my own PERSONAL thoughts on the book.

  • Melissa
    Jan 13, 2017

    I recieved this book from the author in exchange for an honest review.

    So I want to start of by saying that normally books of this type aren't really my cup of tea. However, I thought this book was funny in parts and interesting. I really liked Dear Giving Older Singles a Hard time and You are Worth being Loved as I especially felt like they applied to me (having dated very little in my life and over the age of marriage said in most books) I really enjoyed the Bible quotes and also the quotes by

    I recieved this book from the author in exchange for an honest review.

    So I want to start of by saying that normally books of this type aren't really my cup of tea. However, I thought this book was funny in parts and interesting. I really liked Dear Giving Older Singles a Hard time and You are Worth being Loved as I especially felt like they applied to me (having dated very little in my life and over the age of marriage said in most books) I really enjoyed the Bible quotes and also the quotes by other people.

    In other words it was an enjoyable read, the only downside for me was some of the parts confused me at first (but as I said I have little experience at daiting and later on I realized what those things meant)

    So I recommend this book, especially to young men who are daiting or wanting to date.

  • Abby Thorne
    Feb 08, 2017

    I received a digital copy of Dating Never Works . . . Until It Does from Cedar Fort Publishing in exchange for my honest review.

    This fun dating guide has lots of great humor and insights. Oates’ running commentary throughout it made me laugh, and his many lessons and advice made me think. He really does an excellent job at explaining the do’s and don’ts of dating, and his fun, interesting writing style ensured that I was never bored.

    To read more of my review, check out my blog, the Writing Worm.

  • Cathy
    Feb 09, 2017

    I don't really need a find your love type book, but I have to say reading the premise behind this one made me smile and I just wanted to read it. Plus...don't you just love the cover!

    I do have to admit that even though I'm already married, I did learn things from this book. I learned about kindness, love and the author had some really great dating ideas at the end that anyone can use. And I really loved the ideas for how those of us who are married can treat the single people around us, so tha

    I don't really need a find your love type book, but I have to say reading the premise behind this one made me smile and I just wanted to read it. Plus...don't you just love the cover!

    I do have to admit that even though I'm already married, I did learn things from this book. I learned about kindness, love and the author had some really great dating ideas at the end that anyone can use. And I really loved the ideas for how those of us who are married can treat the single people around us, so that they feel accepted and loved in every situation.

    I really enjoyed reading this book. The author's writing style is super easy to read and it's really fun. I loved the way he had personal stories from both his dating life and friends dating lives sprinkled throughout the whole book. Some of these stories made me laugh out loud!

    This book is a great one for not only those trying to find their future spouse, but for anyone really!

  • Katie W
    Feb 13, 2017

    I haven't dated anyone besides my husband for a long, long time and yet this book almost made me wish for those dating years again so that I could try some of these things. Luckily for me, I'm pretty happy, so I'll just have to apply the few tips for married couples.

    This author has a way with words! Combine that with his contagious enthusiasm and it makes for a fun, highly entertaining, and educational read. I found myself flying through the pages because of all the crazy experiences, humor, and

    I haven't dated anyone besides my husband for a long, long time and yet this book almost made me wish for those dating years again so that I could try some of these things. Luckily for me, I'm pretty happy, so I'll just have to apply the few tips for married couples.

    This author has a way with words! Combine that with his contagious enthusiasm and it makes for a fun, highly entertaining, and educational read. I found myself flying through the pages because of all the crazy experiences, humor, and laughs. I can't believe the kinds of things he went through in the dating world before finding his wife.

    There are things that I completely agree with and things I've never thought of, and this would be a great guide for those navigating the dating waters. In fact, I have two teenagers who could probably benefit from reading this. And as an afterthought, it sounds like I need to invest in a hot tub. :)

    *I received a copy through the publisher, which didn't affect my thoughts and opinions in any way.*

  • Lisa  (Bookworm Lisa)
    Feb 12, 2017

    ***4.5 stars***

    I agreed to read this book because I have a couple of kids who are discouraged with dating. I thought that if I got a few great ideas I could impart my new found wisdom upon them, until my husband reminded me that they hate it when I get in their business. I even put a few hints out there to my son that I had this book and quoted a couple of lines at him, only to see the wary look in his eye. (Don't try to catch a swan when you are being a penguin, I thought it was a good one. He

    ***4.5 stars***

    I agreed to read this book because I have a couple of kids who are discouraged with dating. I thought that if I got a few great ideas I could impart my new found wisdom upon them, until my husband reminded me that they hate it when I get in their business. I even put a few hints out there to my son that I had this book and quoted a couple of lines at him, only to see the wary look in his eye. (Don't try to catch a swan when you are being a penguin, I thought it was a good one. He informed me that he likes penguins.)

    So, the first thought is to not read this book for your kids. They might not like that. My second thought is to do read the book for you, because you will like it. There is some great advice that can be adapted to any level of relationship you happen to be on. One thought is that you can't expect someone to be perfect and accept your faults. It is great to have these reminders, even when you have been married for 24 years.

    The book is full of humor. He does a great job of relating dating experiences in a fun way, even thought I am sure at the time some of them were painful. We have a tendency to be too serious. He reminds his reader that dating is supposed to be fun. He also talks about the etiquette of dating. Make sure that you call it a date. Many times my daughter has complained that she wants to go on a date. I point out to her that she recently went on a hike with so and so, she then tells me that he said he wanted to "hang out", therefore it was not a date. So presentation, attitude, etc are all important in the world of dating. (They are also important in the world of marriage.)

    This is a very cute book. I may wait until the shock of me reading a dating book wears off with my kids before I buy then a copy. (Evil laughter)

  • Diane Tolley
    Feb 12, 2017

    This book is like sitting down with a friend. A good friend who will point out your strengths. But also your faults.

    How can you go wrong with chapters such as:

    You Don’t Stink at Dating, You’re Just a Good Person

    Dating Is like Passing Gas—If You Try Too Hard, It Hurts

    Six Ways to Know That You Are the Straight Gay Best Friend

    Girls Go for Bad Boys Because Good Guys Are Idiots

    Be You . . . But in Doses

    Pepto-Bismol Your Relationship

    True Love Isn’t a Fairy Tale—It Does Exist!

    After reading Zack Oates’ u

    This book is like sitting down with a friend. A good friend who will point out your strengths. But also your faults.

    How can you go wrong with chapters such as:

    You Don’t Stink at Dating, You’re Just a Good Person

    Dating Is like Passing Gas—If You Try Too Hard, It Hurts

    Six Ways to Know That You Are the Straight Gay Best Friend

    Girls Go for Bad Boys Because Good Guys Are Idiots

    Be You . . . But in Doses

    Pepto-Bismol Your Relationship

    True Love Isn’t a Fairy Tale—It Does Exist!

    After reading Zack Oates’ utterly delightful book, Dating Never Works . . . Until it Does. 100 lessons from 1000 Dates, I almost want to go back and try it all over again.